Cancer deals out the good, the bad and the ugly in generous portions. and it’s important to talk about all three. The good is easy. It’s spelled out in three little letters…N-E-D. There are no better letters in a cancer spelling bee.
We adjust our lives to deal with the trauma of the diagnosis, treatment follows, the outcome is a good one and eventually life returns to normal or close to it.
Many cancers can be treated like a chronic disease now, controlled by medicines that knock it out or knock it down. Cancer survivors, and that’s a term I don’t use very often, call themselves that because they have seen the beast, and lived to tell the tale.
Some of us have not been so lucky in cancer world. When it’s been bad, it’s been very, very bad.
So it comes down to facing the fact that cancer kills.
How do we handle that? More importantly, how do we talk about the ultimate outcome?
As a cancer patient cargiver, do we ask the right questions of our loved one suffering with this disease? I mean do we ask the tough questions, when the cancer has reached a place where death comes knocking? What are their final requests? Do they want us to carry out certain tasks? Who should be there to say good-bye? In those last days or hours, how do we make them feel at ease?
This is a life changer, I assure you. It will be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do, but it will also be one of the most important.