“If the Fates Allow…”
“Through the years we’ll always be together, if the Fates allow.”
Lyrics from the Christmas song, “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas,” written by Hugh Martin in 1944 for the movie “Meet Me in St. Louis.”
I heard it this afternoon listening to a radio station that plays only Christmas songs and of course, I sang along. It’s always been a favorite, but that particular line is a heart breaker.
Destiny, Fate, Meant to Be…We’ve all used those words but have we stopped to think about what they mean?
This will be the fourth Holiday season without the Big Guy because “Fate” stepped in. I miss him so much around this time of year because he really enjoyed Christmas. He loved spending hours decorating the tree. I think it took him back to the time when he was a little boy. He liked big trees and he liked the old fashioned lights and he liked a lot of tinsle sparkling from each branch of the Fraser Fir. It really had to be a Fraser Fir. They smelled the best and lasted the longest, according to Leroy. And he loved to look at the tree, all decorated, while the Christmas songs played, the fireplace crackled and he had a favorite glass of wine in-hand. He wasn’t too keen on the “find a parking spot in the mall” part, but he even got into the shopping craziness!
That is an image that will never leave me. That was before Fate stepped in…
This time of year is like a special key. It opens up so many little boxes of memories that have been locked away. I suppose, for those of us who have lost loved ones, we’re happy to have those memories to look back on, but they take their toll on our hearts. During this time of year, telling Leroy stories, brings tears, not smiles, because I hate that Fate stepped in…..but I’m practical enough to say, I guess it was “meant to be.”
It will be a “remembering” weekend and a time to make new memories.
My wish for all of you in this community is for a safe, happy Holiday. Be ‘in’ the moment with your loved ones. Take it all in…If the Fates Allow.
November 25, 2021 @ 9:06 am
this year 2021 Christmas will be remember as Covid-19 Christmas .. special prays to all people who in sadness..may God bless you.
December 25, 2011 @ 11:17 am
Wonderful memories and sweet dreams to all.
December 24, 2011 @ 8:20 am
Relish the memories for they are what fate has left us with. Today my daughters and I will be going through old photos because it just seems like the right time to do it. I will show old home videos to my grandchildren. I hope I make it through them. May all of us have at least one memory that warms us and makes us smile. Merry Christmas to everyone!
December 23, 2011 @ 7:58 pm
Offering love and hugs to all.
December 23, 2011 @ 6:58 pm
Even with the sadness, I’m so glad you have those memories and I hope that they will always be with you. I let the memories of Christmas past warm my heart and touch my soul. Would that I could have known then what they mean now. Even my kids (now grown with kids of their own) remember us gathering at Grandma’s house to celebrate. After several big meals, we’d all gather in the family room, drag out old pictures (we’d just done this last year) and play…who is this or remember when. We’d take a moment to watch Home Alone. Really good times with family that still today some 10 years after Grandma died on Christmas night, we still remember and cherish the memories. They have a special place in my heart and will always. Our kids and grandkids will gather with us, we’ll remember Christmas with Grandma stories and hopefully carry on the family tradition. Home Alone is still being shown.
I wish for us all here at Our Cancer a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. We are few in number but so strong. Let our strength plus our HOPE for a better New Year be a blessing to all of those we know who need us and our support. May God continue to bless us one and all.
December 23, 2011 @ 6:56 pm
Remember it all Laurie, shed the tears and welcome in the memories, make new ones and remember to laugh.
And to all, Merry Christmas.
December 23, 2011 @ 5:38 pm
Laurie, Merry Christmas and hang onto those memories! If you shed a tear, it’s ok……your missing a huge part of you! Sing away L!
And Merry Christmas to this amazing, loving and guiding family…Leroy’s Garden!
December 23, 2011 @ 5:27 pm
Surround your self with people who love you… Have a Merry LIttle Christmas.