That old expression “Hindsight is 20-20” speaks volumes. You learn so much during the time you need the information the most and by the time you’re through the hard parts, you don’t need what you’ve learned.
That was true when we built our home. Talk about two fish out of water; we didn’t know the first thing about dealing with contractors and builders and architects. I read as much as I could to pick up hints and we had some one look at the contracts, but we were babe’s in the woods and some of the “professionals” we worked with knew it. By the time we had a house to move into, we were experts at all the little tricks of the trade and I probably should have written a handbook on “House Building for First Timers.”
Same thing applied as we went through our cancer experience. And the post cancer experience was and is a hard copy of learning too.
The hospice experience for us was not a positive one. The person who suggested I not attend the grief sessions because I was too young for the group was wrong. I know that now. I know a lot of things now that I didn’t know then.
If I had the knowledge then that I have now, I would have put it to good use.
It just goes to show you, there’s a learning curve for everything.
Nan…Prayers go out to Cynthia Lufkin. Sounds like she paid it forward. Another warrior who gave her all.