When you’ve lost a friend to cancer and you sit down to write a sympathy note to the loved who remains, what do you say?
Do you reminisce about the fun times you spent with them, when cancer wasn’t in the way? Do you talk about how strong they were in their fight against the disease? Do you say how courageous
they were, and how they allowed researchers to advance the treatment of their cancer, because they were brave enough to be a part of clinical trials?
Do you tell them they lived and loved a warrior who, in your eyes, stood up to a powerful foe and even though they died at the hands of their enemy, they died a hero to others?
Yes, I think you say all of those things, because they are all true and they need to be said.
A loved one, mourning a loss like that, really needs to hear the truth.