Thanksgiving in Cancer World…

I can think of a half dozen homes altered by cancer this Thanksgiving.

Friends who are fighting cancer and don’t have the same energy they’ve had in past years to stand and prepare a huge Thanksgiving meal for family and friends.  Instead, they’ll leave the cooking to others and if I know them like I think I do, they’ll raise a glass of ginger ale and look around the room wondering if they’ll be here next year to enjoy the room full of love and support. That’s what cancer in the room does to a Thanksgiving celebration.

I’m also thinking of a couple of homes where a chair at the table, will be just a chair; sitting empty this year because cancer stole another loved one from us.  Glasses will be raised at this table too.  Everyone will say how thankful they are for everyone who has gathered, but there will be so many broken hearts from the loss.

There will be 3 cancer widows at my table this year.  THREE cancer widows. Add to that, three young adults who missed having a father in their homes for a good part of their ‘growing-up’ years.  We will lift our glasses before dinner and say how much we miss these three wonderful guys.  They were a force in our lives and they left a big hole in our hearts.

We were lucky; we had them even for a little while.  That’s something to be thankful for, indeed.


Wishing you all a very Happy Thanksgiving.


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Nan Holmes November 30, 2016 at 10:04 am

Thinking of many more broken hearts this holiday season. Just want to share that Jane Brody had a great article in the NY Times “Science Times” yesterday, “What Not to Say to a Cancer Patient.” My husband remarked that it is very accurate.


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