How long does it take to “get over it?”

The short answer is “never.”

But there’s a better, longer answer too.  You never get over the death of a loved one who worked so hard to live and wouldn’t give in to cancer.  So many of us remember those days following our loss, how experts, friends, and family would say, “You’ll be fine.  It will take a while, but you’ll get through this.”  And you did, ‘ get through it,’ but it didn’t take a few months and it didn’t take a year either.  It’s still in process, as they say and will be forever.

I bring this up because today that was the topic of conversation from a friend who lost her Mom years ago and she still feels the pain on certain days when events call-up memories of Mother-Daughter times.

I can relate and I’m sure many of you can too.  It doesn’t take a big holiday to feel the grief rise-up.  It can be the simplest things: the arrival of Springtime, a Orange Jeep speeding down the road, a quick glimpse of a photograph from a vacation that was special.  There are so many things that bring them back to us.

There are no apologies for the feelings either.

How long does it take to “get over it?”

The short answer is “never.”

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